There is a process that every male must go through in life. Many boys never become men either because they allow people to control their lives or because they have never submitted to Christ and allowed him to mold them into the man He is preparing them to be. Men, you have to understand that you must go to God before a woman so He can process you. Ladies, you must understand that you cannot force a man to love you who isn’t ready, you will never be good enough.

1. Boys don’t know what they want.

Every boy has a desire to chase after something. However while immature, he will simply go after what looks and feels good not necessarily what is good for them. Which is why just like a parent, God has to teach him what to avoid and what is acceptable. Men, don’t rush this period. Allow God to develop you. Premature dating will lead to broken hearts or offering women what you can’t deliver.

2. Boys are emotionally driven, men are more focused.

Whenever a little boy doesn’t get His way, he’s either ready to fight, whine or shut down internally. That’s not the man God wants His daughters with. God has to work on him so he knows how to operate under pressure and how to lead a family without emotions clouding his judgment. Ladies, don’t spend time on a boy that has you being his second mother. If he can’t be calm and collected, he isn’t fit to lead you. Remember, love is patient and kind. An emotion driven man is the one who tends to abuse women when he can’t verbally express his thoughts or handle his emotions.

3. Men work for what they want, boys want handouts.

I don’t know how you feel about it, but seeing women in control and babying their man is a disgrace. Don’t get me wrong, ladies take care of your man, but no woman should be supporting a lazy man. Ladies shouldn’t have to be raising their husbands, she isn’t his mother. A real man may not have all the degrees in the world, but he knows how to provide, protect and pray for his family. Men, make sure you’re stable with God. A degree doesn’t sustain a relationship, but a connection to Christ will.

4. Good men are hard to find.

No woman should be pursuing a man. So if you think you found a good one, you did not. A real man understands it’s his role to lead in the pursuit. He doesn’t wait on a woman to come to him out of loneliness but he finds a woman with a heart for Christ and ambition that he can grow with.

5. Godly men are under attack.

If you’re paying attention, you can see that there are more women in church than men. And the men you do see in church are either being pressured into fornication, homosexuality, marriage before they’re ready, drugs, alcohol etc. Some of these influences come from within the church as well. You will never understand the struggles a man faces, they need prayer. Don’t say “there are no good men”, and not pray that God rises up men like David, Paul, Samuel, etc. Your prayer can be the breaking point of God saving someone’s husband, child, father. Men are falling, so many are comfortable in secret sins and honestly feel trapped. Prayer and accountability will bring them out.

There’s a process men must go through, pray that they submit to Jesus before trying to lead a woman or any type of ministry. Grace and peace.

- Tovares Grey

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What is grace? It amazes me that the very thing God uses to save us is often the most misunderstood topic in the bible. I myself sometimes have a hard time understanding grace, but then I remember God is not a man and He does not think like us. Here are 5 things you must know about grace.

1. God’s grace saved us.

None of us are worthy of His love. The one thing God hates is in our very nature to do, sin. You must understand that when Jesus went to the cross that He knew every sin we would commit and still felt compassion and died in our place. Why? LOVE! God doesn’t love us because we are good, He loves us because He is good. In return His love will draw us to do good by obeying Him.

For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Ephesians 2:8 

2. Grace overcomes sin, it does not condone it.

Well you may say that’s contradicting, and that God still loves us when we sin. However, grace never gave a license for sin, grace is a power to overcome the struggle. Other than Jesus, Paul was one of the greatest men to walk this earth. He had a struggle as well, God told Him He was not going to remove the struggle because it forces Paul to be humble and depend on God.

And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 2 Corinthians 12:9

3. Grace rewards.

God is no respecter of person, but there is a principle to everything He does. He is our Father, see him as you would see your earthly Father. Obedience causes you to walk in God’s will and He then gives you the desires of your heart, but rebelling may cause Him to allow you to go out on your own and see for yourself that you need Him (the prodigal son for example).

For the Lord God is a sun and shield: the Lord will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. Psalms 84:11

4. You are where you are because of grace. 

God doesn’t hate the less fortunate, let’s set the record straight. Truth be told, we would be in someone else’s shoes if God didn’t have His hand on our life. You may not be perfect, but God is perfecting you into His image.

But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me. 1 Corinthians 15:10

5. Grace is for everyone. 

There are no favorites. God came for all of us and He is willing to save all of us who seek Him diligently.

For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; Titus 2:11-13

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September 14, 2014 — Leave a comment

Everyone worships something or someone. Many of us, and I’m speaking of believers, love God but He isn’t the one who we worship. We are seeking more followers on social media, education, a better relationship and “real love”, and many of us are chasing money. I’m not saying having any of these are sins, but when they cloud our mind from more of Jesus, then we have an issue.

But none of these things move me, neither count I my life dear unto myself, so that I might finish my course with joy, and the ministry, which I have received of the Lord Jesus, to testify the gospel of the grace of God. (‭Acts‬ ‭20‬:‭24‬)

At the end of the day, Jesus is the only thing that matters. None of our achievements are of significance if He isn’t pleased with our life.

If you are the only one, keep seeking Jesus. The three Hebrew boys were isolated, but they didn’t compromise. You don’t have to be like others, but you have to try to live like Jesus. You have to pursue God, even after you have found Him. You can’t be comfortable where you are spiritually because that’s when the devil and distractions creep in. Seek more of God, stay desperate for His presence.

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